Keep in touch

I'm having an introspective month. Which is just code for the fact that I think far too much about random stuff. Recently I've noticed just how many people I've lost touch with. I'm sure you all know how it is. You move around and some people you just know you'll never see or speak to again but you miss them all the same. Other people you try and keep in contact with but it fades out and then there is the core you do keep in touch with which is great but every now and again you wonder what happened to everyone else?

Sites like MySpace and Facebook are great for finding people you used to know but when you find them how much have you actually got to say anymore?

Sometimes its like no time has passed but other times after you've said "hi" its followed by awkwardness...

Its worse with family, I have such a huge extended family that I grew up with (I'm talking in the hundreds) that you just accept that you'll see these people at events like wedding, dinners etc but since I grew up and moved out I have less reason to go to these things and thus end up seeing people I love (and many that I loathed) once a year, relying on my parents for updates. Taking for granted that the people I'm close are family and will forgive me for not being there thus I'll never really lose touch with them.

Anyway I think this week should be getting in touch week I mean what have I got to lose...

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  1. My theory is, if i'm not in touch with someone there's a reason why and i let sleeping dogs lie etc.

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  2. Wow, it is like we're reading each other's minds. It's strange how we've come to a point in our life where taking an inventory of our friends/family list is like cleaning out your closet. And yes, that awkward moment is almost always bound to happen because seriously, what ARE you supposed to say? "How's life?"

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  3. Well if they are suppose to still be around they will, but you must always do what you feel like dong:)

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  4. I recently got back in touch with an old friend I'd not seen or heard from for 10 years, simply by googling her name & finding out where she works. I emailed her and she emailed right back, and it's almost as if the years haven't passed.
    Sometimes we lose touch for all the wrong reasons.

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  5. Hello, ShadowFalcon!
    This post is very nice
    have nice wkend

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  6. Yeah, but sometimes the small part of a person, the part which you zoomed in on and allowed to colour your perception of him/her, has gone.

    Then awkwardness reigns.

    But yes, some people never change their core self. Yet others go on to develop new selves, and if you are lucky they are still in touch with the self you allied yourself to.

    And what a fantastic moment that is. Hope you get something like this!

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  7. Hi Shadowfalcon!

    Just staying in touch here. :P Hope you're well.

    Ian

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  8. There are times where people don't want to be found, or if they do, only by the sane people. I sometimes wonder whether ex-felons read my blog. I hope not.

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  9. What have you got to lose?
    Depends on who you contact.

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  10. As you know, I joined myspace after avoiding forever, and I quite enjoy the catch up emails. Some are awkward, some are great. Of course there will always be the people who who we consciously lost contact with, but I've found others who I have more in common now than when we knew each other back in America, it's been great fun (now join myspace so I can bump up my number of friends! and erm, keep in contact!)

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  11. i'm agreeing with e at the top on this
    there's loads of people that i've lost contact with over time, some it's been intentional, others it's just happened. there's not a lot i want to say to people these days because maybe there's so much ground to cover to catch people up with what's going on and stuff that by the time you've caught them up with everything there's nothing left to say

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  12. I know what you mean. There are so many people that I didn't stay in touch with from before high school, but they were for a reason, and I have found so many more friends now. I don't need the others.
    Helen

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  13. I agree about finding people you have lost touch with. Sometimes the fact that you have nothing left to say to each other is worse than not knowing what they are doing at all.

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  14. Sometimes we just lost count on the number of cousins we have :(

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  15. Thank you for passing by my place the other day. Gosh, I bookmarked you so I would remember to come by, and now I don't even know where you were at my place. Anyway, I so hear you abt finding people and just touching base.
    I think it is a nice and sometimes FUN thing to do!

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  16. Hi Shadow Falcon, just saying hi. (keeping in touch) kah..kah..kah.. although ian above hv done so, still got the urge to do it again. :)

    i was very close to my cousin, friends since 5 years old (i can only remeber until that time) we continued benig close eventhough he studie in UK and i stayed in Malaysia. But after both got married, we seldom meet nor talk. Kind of weird dont u think?

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  17. You have nothing to lose, everything to gain-nothing wrong with trying to re-cultivate with lost friends-some will give you the parse friendliness and others will pick up right where you left off-have been through this before and usually, where you end up is where you ought to be....

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  18. I've found as we get older, we just have too many things going on, I hate not being closer to my family than I am.

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  19. I basically said "Have a nice life," to about a hundred school kids in the past week that I used to teach and now have no idea if I'll ever bump into them again. Kinda sad. Then again, might drop in and say hi next year sometime ...

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  20. No reason to sweat it. Folks enter our lives and folks leave our lives. It keeps life interesting!

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  21. Just drop into my mind, your blog is among my top 5 readings ( I do read many..)It's the way you present that's fascinates me. I'm not good enough in English to express myself as I would like to.. feel childish..

    Keep on your effort. I'll stay tuned as one of your many readers.

    :)

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