In rain or shine

My Father's best Friend (H Uncle) lives up in Scotland, the two of them have been friends since they were roommates in University over 40 years ago. I think its amazing that after 40 year they are just as close now as they were then, even if everything in their lives has changed. Its not just the two of them, both our families are close as you can be even if we can only see each other once or twice a year. Unfortunately a few years ago H Uncle started to suffer from Dementia and there is nothing anyone can do. The few times I've seen him since his illness were heartbreaking, especially cos of the effect its having on his family, to my dad it is like losing a brother all over again.

My best friend K and I have known each other for almost 8 years now, 5 of which we lived together as college roommates and then flat mates. In June she moved back home and even though I see her as often as we can, I still miss her. The girl is completely insane and makes no sense half the time (she'd probably say the same thing about me) and we are total opposites on about a thousand things. I'd rather read Milton while she'd rather do simultaneous equations. I've no doubt in 40 years time we'll be the same as we are now gossiping about one thing or another and giggling about things only the two of us remember.

The funny part was when we first moved into together I think both of us were sat there in our new room hoping the other wasn't going to turn out to be a psychopath.

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  1. When my father-in-law's Parkinson kicked in, he started getting dementia. He used to ask us about the "other" people in the room. We'd tell him, "They're leaving right now. You have nothing to worry about." He'd nod in approval.

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  2. Sorry about H Uncle, mainly spoke to his daughter when I was at your wedding and she was really nice

    “The girl is completely insane and makes no sense half the time (she'd probably say the same thing about me)”

    Your definitely write about that : )

    You’re going to laugh, but who is Milton?
    Simultaneous Equations could be fun, if I remember how to solve them half the time

    “I've no doubt in 40 years time we'll be the same as we are now gossiping about one thing or another and giggling about things only the two of us remember.”
    I hope so too

    “The funny part was when we first moved into together I think both of us were sat there in our new room hoping the other wasn't going to turn out to be a psychopath.”
    Yep

    See you tomorrow : P

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  3. You're both psychopaths!

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  4. The even funnier thing is the fact that you both did turn out to be psychopaths. ;)

    Steve~

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  5. Sorry about your dad's best friend.

    One of my best friends and I met in college...we disliked each other on sight. A month or so later, we became thick as thieves. :-)

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  6. sorry about your dads best friend. my best friend and I met in 10th grade. My childhood best friend had just moved to another state and I was set on hardening my heart and not letting anyone else be my best friend. Melissa won me over and we've been tight ever since.

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  7. Sorry to hear about Uncle H.

    I have never successfully lived with anyone. Roommates, boyfriends, husbands, bosses...

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  8. Great post. Sorry about your dad's friend...

    Friendships are such a mystery.

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  9. I worked in the special care (Alzheimer's and Dementia) unit at my work for over three years. Very sad disease indeed. Sorry about your dad's friend. Their is a wonderful book by Naome Feil called The Validation Breakthrough. It gives simple techniques for communicating with people that have these types of diseases. It is very helpful in getting an understanding of the disease and gives ways to connect with these individuals that are mistakenly thought to be "beyond reach."

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  10. sorry to hear about your uncle, take care.

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  11. It's sad about dad's best friend.. I don't feel like I have that person in my life, so you and him have been very lucky :)

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  12. Dementia is a sad thing...my mom has it...It's like I lost her, even tho she's still alive...but ya know, she's happy...she's like a little girl and smiles and laughs all the time..I'm grateful for that....
    My best friend and I have teased each other about being roommates at the nursing home when the time comes...we'll surely liven the place up.
    Peace

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  13. Friends like that are the best. You and your dad are both lucky to have had them in your lives.

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